As gay adoptive parents, Biff Chaplow and Trystan Reese exploded into the public eye after being featured on the parenting podcast The Longest Shortest Time. Their trans pregnancy story has since been covered by People Magazine, on Buzzfeed, on CNN, and in hundreds of other outlets across the globe.
Listeners and readers have been captivated by their honest, raw accounting of becoming "accidental gay parents" when a sister suddenly couldn't care for her kids, and these two 20-something guys were thrust into the world of parenting.
Now that their family is complete, Biff and Trystan are excited to continue sharing their story of love, courage, and family with the world.
"...One of the most moving and powerful expressions of family I have ever heard."
“Why did you decide to gender your baby at birth?”
Every once in awhile, a stranger (usually online) will ask us this question.
In most cases, it’s intended as a “gotcha.” People who don’t want the best for us will ask it in jest, attempting to poke holes in our argument that perhaps gender is less rigid and fixed than we’ve been led to believe. Other times it’s asked by a trans or non-binary person who imagines that we are upholding the gender binary by assuming what gender our baby is.
It is rarely asked with good intention, but for the sake of this blog post… let’s assume it IS being asked that way (and then I’ll discuss why the first two ways of asking it are harmful).
I guess I have to explain my beliefs on gender to begin with.
We put a lot of time and energy into thinking about ways to moderate our kids’ digital intake. They would do screentime all day every day if we let them, and we would rather they have literally NO screentime. How do we compromise? By finding educational and fun ways to engage them in tablet play. The Fire HD 8 Kids Edition tablet and FreeTime parental controls help us do just that!!!
As a transgender person, I’ve had many strange conversations about gender. But none are as strange as the ones I have with and about my kids. Here’s part one in my series on gender and parenting, in which I discuss my resistance to dressing Hailey in feminine attire. Check it out!