As adoptive parents, Biff Chaplow and Trystan Reese exploded into the public eye after being featured on the parenting podcast The Longest Shortest Time. Their trans pregnancy story has since been covered by People Magazine, on Buzzfeed, on CNN, and in hundreds of other outlets across the globe.
Listeners and readers have been captivated by their honest, raw accounting of becoming "accidental gay parents" when Biff’s sister suddenly couldn't care for her kids, and these two 20-something guys were thrust into the world of parenting. They later decided to grow their family by having a biological child, which Trystan (a transgender man) carried and gave birth to himself. Their son Leo was born in July of 2017.
Now that their family is complete, Biff and Trystan are excited to continue sharing their story of love, courage, and family with the world.
"...One of the most moving and powerful expressions of family I have ever heard."
Riley has always had to work hard to focus on what was happening in front of him, and has often struggled to stay in a positive mindset. When he was seven, we had him assessed so we would have a better sense of what he might need from us in terms of supports. I thought I was ready for whatever might come up during those assessments, but when the pediatric psychologist gently told us that Riley met all the criteria for ADHD, I was shocked. How had I missed this? Was he going to need medication? Do we really know the long-term effects of that medication on tiny bodies? Weren’t there other options for treating it?
When you’re pregnant (and even after you give birth), everyone has opinions for you. And for some reason, most of these advice-givers don’t seem able to simply share what worked for them... instead, they all seem convinced that their way is The Right Way and all other ways will inevitably lead to Doom and Gloom for you, your partner (if you have one), and your baby.
This turns out to be true whether you’re transgender or not, so I thought I’d share my tips for surviving Nagging Nancies during pregnancy and early parenthood.