Our Story

Biff Chaplow is a social worker and parent. He used to work with formerly-homeless individuals on Skid Row and now works fulltime as a parent to Hailey, Riley, and Leo. 

Trystan Reese is a gay trans dad, working as a social justice professional. He gave birth to Leo Murray Chaplow on July 14th, 2017. 

Together, they are Biff and I.

They didn't think their story, of adopting their niece and nephew (both survivors of an abusive situation), was an exceptional one. That is, until WNYC's parenting podcast, The Longest Shortest Time, did a four-part series on their unique situation. Suddenly, the young couple found themselves sharing the lessons they learned, becoming parents under such stressful circumstances, with many people across the country. 

Then they decided to grow their family by having their own biological child-- one that Trystan carried and birthed himself. As a transgender man, he has all the parts necessary to do so in a safe manner. He stopped taking his hormones, and they successfully conceived and had a beautiful, happy baby. Throughout that process, they shared their story with a wide variety of media outlets in the hopes that their story-- of love and hope and family-- might increase the visibility and acceptance of trans people and LGBT families.

Their candid storytelling ability and the passion they have for each other (and their children) has led to this website, which will house the occasional parenting essay, advertise upcoming speaking engagements, and give folks a chance to hear more from Biff and Trystan.